Many people spend what seems to be the length of a lifetime fantasizing about the perfect relationship. And while some are struggling their way through, and are still to settle in the relationship of their lives, others are lucky enough to have already done that. The thing is, though, that preparing ourselves for a relationship while being all by ourselves is indeed a practicing field with lots of flaws.
A decade having passed since American psychologists Leaf Van Boven and Thomas Gilovich published their research on experiences versus possessions, there is now another study that is once again putting this subject under a lens. Their study allowed people to understand that shopping for experiences buys a lot more happiness on the long run than purchasing material goods.
Led to believe that unemployment among the young is something that only our generation has witnessed, we further propel the idea of out-of-our-hands type of crisis. Naively blaming the economy, many young people are stuck into what seems to be a transitional limbo – no longer a child, but never fully an adult. Employment, for better or worse, does play a rather critical role.
Putting routine under close scrutiny we can, with somewhat of a certainty, predict various aspects of our lives. We can know, or guess fairly closely, how something is going to pan out if the wheel keeps spinning the same way over and over.
I need a frame. A solid frame. A frame that keeps me engaged into routine. A frame that keeps me doing mundane things, over and over if need be. A frame that forces discipline, so I can keep my creative and lateral thinking away from leaking and cluttering every possible aspect of my life. I need a frame.